Sometimes when we communicate we think we are being really clear, yet the person we are talking to hears something totally different. The response we get from them, whether verbal or not, is a pretty good indicator of how they interpreted the meaning of what was said. Kind of like the difference between intention vs. impact.
One way that some deal with this is to blame the other person for not understanding or "getting it." This is when
the meaning of your communication is the response you wished you got. This is the opposite belief that can lead to miscommunication and misunderstandings. Anytime you or I blame someone for not understanding what we meant to say, and we think our communication is perfect, we are being inflexible and not taking responsibility for our words/actions.
A more responsible way to handle it is to ask yourself: hmm that's interesting, I wonder how else I could communicate that so they will understand what I'm trying to get across? By remembering that the meaning of your communication is the response you get instead of the communication you delivered, you become more behaviorally flexible and better responsive to change. This allows you to learn how to communicate not just in your own way but also in the other person's way.
Often this is what sets great communicators/speakers/teachers/coaches/partners etc. apart from the rest. Instead of labeling their audience as resistant or slow or whatever else, they take responsibility and shift their approach.
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